This is my 100th post on this blog - and they said it wouldn't last! I thought this would be an appropriate time to set out some simple advice for anyone reading this who is involved in a separation/ divorce. Here are my top ten DOs and DON'Ts:
1. DON'T ever use the children as ammunition in any dispute with the other parent.
2. DO always put the interests of the children first.
3. DO try to agree as many matters as possible.
4. DO consider mediation, if you can't agree matters with the other party.
5. DO instruct a solicitor who is a member of Resolution or the Law Society's Family or Children Panels.
6. DON'T defend divorce proceedings unless there is a really compelling reason to do so.
7. DO make full and accurate dislosure of your financial circumstances when dealing with financial/property matters.
8. DON'T argue over undisclosed assets, unless you are sure they exist.
9. DON'T make unreasonable claims, unless you like giving money to your solicitor.
10. DO comply with the Law Society's Family Law Protocol, unless there are good reasons not to do so - see my previous posts regarding the Protocol.
If both parties follow these simple rules then animosity, cost and delays should be kept to a minimum.