Four out of five people say children should come first in divorce

I have received the following press release from Resolution, launching Family Dispute Resolution Week 2012 (24-30 Sept), with events being held around the country:

Four out of five people say children should come first in divorce
  • Survey reveals attitudes to separation and divorce as new advice guide launched
  • More than half of Britons have a divorced family member
  • 40% assume divorce can never be without conflict

The overwhelming majority of Britons believe that putting children’s interests first or avoiding conflict are the most important factors if going through divorce, according to a new survey from Resolution, the national family law association.

Four out of five (78%) say that putting children’s interests first would be their most or second most important consideration in a divorce, and 53% would prioritise making the divorce as conflict-free as possible.

Despite this, over four-fifths of people (81%) believe that children end up being the main casualties of divorce, and 40% believe that divorces can never be without conflict – a figure that rises to nearly half (47%) of those who are currently divorced themselves. Despite the increasing availability of non-court alternatives, nearly half (45%) think that most divorces involve a visit to court.

In stark contrast to some of the high-profile divorce cases in recent years, financial factors are not seen as particularly important, with only 1% saying that being financially better off than their partner would be the most important consideration should they divorce.

The survey was conducted to mark Family Dispute Resolution Week, starting today and being held to raise awareness of non-confrontational methods of resolving family breakdown, such as mediation, collaborative law and arbitration.

As part of the week, Resolution is launching a new advice guide, ’Separating Together: Your options for separation and divorce,’ designed to help separating couples understand and explore non-court based methods of resolving issues arising on the breakdown of a relationship.

Jo Edwards, Vice Chair of Resolution, said: “These findings highlight how people have good intentions to prioritise the well-being of children and to avoid conflict during separation, but this can often be derailed by a lack of knowledge of non-court based options and an exposure to the adversarial nature of courts. Something is going very wrong, and often the result is emotionally and financially drained parents and deeply distressed children.

“However, there is another way. We’ve launched this guide because we want separating couples to know about non-confrontational alternatives to court. These methods can help prevent separation and divorce from being needlessly adversarial, and often can benefit the whole family through fairer settlements and by prioritising the interests of children.”

The survey results come at an important time for family law in England and Wales. The most recent statistics show a rise in divorce rates; and the family courts are facing the strain.

Ms Edwards added: “The courts are already struggling to cope, and are likely to be even busier when the legal aid cuts take effect next year, with more people trying to navigate the family justice system on their own as a result. The system is under huge pressure, and couples who use alternatives to court are much more likely to achieve swift, fair outcomes.”

Resolution is an association of 6,500 family lawyers and professionals committed to taking conflict out of family disputes. Resolution members abide by a code of practice which encourages solutions based on the needs of the whole family, and particularly the best interests of children.


  1. I did raise an eyebrow at this, John:

    " with only 1% saying that being financially better off than their partner would be the most important consideration should they divorce."

    Probably should read "with only 1% admitting....."

    1. Yes, doesn't quite tie in with experience...


  2. What Resolution fails to take into account (purposefully?) is that parents are often so blinded by emotions, power, and control as to think that they are putting the children first when actually they are abusing them by divorcing and litigating in the first place.

    Such surveys are just plain silly, and reveal nothing other than a strong sense of righteousness on the part of certain parents.

    And obviously none are going to mention money, because it would be shameful to acknowledge the basic truth that this is often at the heart of it for those who use their children to hurt the other parent.


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